Raising The Great Mother – Together


She is no warrior.

She knows no sides.

She has given birth to everyone a thousand times.

A thousand times, witnessed everyone’s death.

As she will a thousand times more, cherishing each no less and no more than the first, whom she cherished the most.

And She woke to me in 2012.

The Great Mother: An Analysis of the Archetype by Erich Neumann, translated by Ralph Manheim, a book I’d had on the shelf for a decade at least, was first to catch my attention as I began a search for meaning upon spontaneous Kundalini Shakti awakening in 2012. Having initiated Extinction Witness a year prior, my energy was already fully devoted to Her cause – Life, all birth and death. Kundalini Shakti simply opened me to the archetype and healed my mind with universal love.

Having since experienced the challenge of raising The Great Mother in a patriarchal culture that survives through Her exile, I want to emphasize how critical it is that women stand in Her fire and rise together now in process of healing patriarchy and sparing innocents further harm.

The Un-Mothered Child

In my experience, patriarchy exists of a social agreement in which the mother’s needs and nature are always trumped by the father’s desires. A mother’s needs include freedom from spiritual, emotional, and physical oppression and assault. Since through pregnancy and on, a mother can only fully meet her child’s needs when her own needs are fully met, unnurtured children – male and female – are the ultimate losers in the patriarchal social agreement.

Naturally, a mother embraces all children as her own because she knows the great love of her own.[1] Naturally, a mother embodies The Great Mother. Such bountiful love is not of service to the patriarchal line, which prioritizes direct descendants. So, Her nature is punished and exiled. And Her exile so normalized that Her nature is considered, at worst, madness and, at best, saintliness.

Having not known their true Mother, unnurtured children grow to be selfish adults unable to see their own selfishness and incapable of truly nurturing themselves and others. Patriarchy, thus, serves men no more than women as relationships fail and an insatiable hunger is placated through addictions. The most common being normalized materialism fostered by insecure attachment to their mothers and complicated by their inborn sense of entitlement – a radical insensitivity to the needs of other children and their families.

Women’s Empowerment and The Great Mother’s Liberation

In my experience, little has changed among white women’s circles since The Great Mother fell in transition to warrior culture as women conformed to competitive norms, ensuring their own survival at the expense of other women and other women’s families.[2] While betrayal among women permeates formal and informal groups, most insidious and damaging is betrayal within families and women’s circles yet fixed in predominant patriarchal norms.

Fear, righteous anger, and resentment fostered in women as individuals compete to survive and/or gain recognition is precisely how patriarchy unintentionally divides to thrive. Wounds of financial poverty, judgement, exploitation, and exclusion are most severe when they occur within women’s circle because circle is where women are supposed to be held safe and supported.  I know the distrust, anger, and resentment well having fallen into isolation through a series of relationships, including connection with leaders of two women’s empowerment circles, upon waking in 2013.

Thankfully, the cost of betrayal and competition in white women’s circles is being called out in what marketing consultant Kelly Diels coined Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB), introduced to me by Layla Saad. [3]

FLEB is “an archetype women must comply with and embody in order to be deserving of rights and resources AND a marketing strategy that leverages social status and white privilege to create authority over other women.”

Women’s collective liberation and, thus, peaceful resolution of conflicts for universal justice requires that women refrain from labeling, patronizing, judging, dismissing, and otherwise betraying other women as part of gaining resources and social status to survive while suggesting this is a way to thrive.

Age-old betrayals are to be resolved through fulfilling The Great Mother’s way by supporting one another fundamentally with the basics of healthy community – food, shelter, and kindness – through the healing process. And, knowing innocence, forgiving ourselves, one another, and all children of patriarchy the harms long and presently inflicted.

[1] Sobonfu Somé speaks to the Mother’s nature from her upbringing in Burkina Faso, Africa.

[2] In The Serpent and the Goddess: Women, Religion, and Power in Celtic Ireland, Mary Condren describes the fall of The Great Mother archetype as women were displaced in the rising warrior culture. Though women found refuge from violence in the Church, they were required still to compromise The Great Mother’s nature within themselves by surviving at the expense of other women and other women’s children.

[3] Reading Layla Saad’s post, I felt as if I’d been given a diagnosis for the disease I’d suffered since 2013.